The 'Obsessive-Compulsive Approval-Seeking Underego' Speaks: 'Your love and approval are more important to me than my own self-boundaries and integrity...Just tell me who and what you want me to be...and I will be that...'
Meanwhile, The Defiant, Rebellious Underego Shakes His or Her Disagreeing Head At The Approval-Seeking Underego's 'Unbelievably Wussy Behavior' (The Approval-Seeking Underego and The Rebellious-Defiant Underego have a relationship of considerable tension and animosity when they disagree significantly about how to respond to 'external people' in their outside world (technically viewed in Psychoanalysis as 'external objects' although this term is rather objectifying and depersonalizing since the term 'external object' is generally but not always meant to stand for an 'external person').
Suffice is to say that internal tension and conflict can mount between the approval-seeking underego and the defiant, rebellious underego. They can literally be swearing at each other -- the defiant underego claiming that the approval-seeking underego is being too 'wimpy', 'wussy', and 'soppy nice'...while the approval-seeking ego shouts at the defiant underego to basically 'shut up, to keep a smooth, conflict-free ship running here before he leads them both to the plank overlooking the very deep ocean...the abyss of all mortal men and women...
Suffice is to say that internal tension and conflict can mount between the approval-seeking underego and the defiant, rebellious underego. They can literally be swearing at each other -- the defiant underego claiming that the approval-seeking underego is being too 'wimpy', 'wussy', and 'soppy nice'...while the approval-seeking ego shouts at the defiant underego to basically 'shut up, to keep a smooth, conflict-free ship running here before he leads them both to the plank overlooking the very deep ocean...the abyss of all mortal men and women...
-- dgb, updated and modified Feb. 2nd-3rd, 2010
-- David Gordon Bain
