Hegel said: What divides us makes us.
What divides us makes us Hegel
Robert Fulford, National Post
Published: Monday, March 24, 2008
I will say more: What divides us defines us.
And more: What divides us binds us; and what binds us divides us. Love and hate coming at us, and leaving us together...as in the typical marriage after the honeymoon is over...a marriage of opposites, and/or a a marriage of similarities. We can't win for losing...I both love and hate you for your similarities (with me); and I both love and hate you for your differences (with me). Figure that one out. Deep down we are all a bundle of paradoxes -- and more than that -- often hypocrites. And even more than that, perhaps we need to more fully explore all the different and hidden places where we both love and hate ourselves...before we can properly figure out what is going on in our marriage or partnership once the honeymoon is over...
Hegel's Hotel is my therapist. But there is a time when every client hates -- or at least is angry at -- his or her therapist. It's usually called 'negative transference' although sometimes it just as appropriately deserves to be called 'negative immediacy'.
What was the stressor? What is the stressor? Where did the anger and/or rage and/or hate come from? Did it come from the past? Or the present -- with an association to the past?
The silent raging anarchist needs to speak....In a therapeutic democracy every ego state gets to speak...The approval-seeker needs to speak...the raging anarchist needs to speak...the narcissist and hedonist needs to speak...the romantic needs to speak...the paranoid-schizoid-distancer needs to speak...the maternal or paternal nurturer needs to speak...the altruist needs to speak...and the hard-line rule-setter, judge, and disciplinarian needs to speak...
Everybody gets to speak in Hegel's Hotel...
This is what I call a 'multi-dialectic' or 'pluralistic-dialectic' democracy.
-- dgb, Jan. 2nd-3rd, 2010.
-- David Gordon Bain
