When you 'play an Impulsive Desire or Drive ('ID') card', there is always a significant chance that the card will be thrown back in front of your face.
That is why our 'ID cards' are generally held back like 'hidden cards in poker' -- and often behind a poker face.
Unless we are familiar and comfortable with the person we are interacting with, generally speaking, we keep our ID cards 'locked up'....in what I call our 'Id Vault' (or 'Id Asylum')....which is surrounded by 'ego defenders' that are like 'armed guards' ready to 'grab and throw back any 'ID Inmates' that try to break out of our 'ID Asylum'.
However, you go on a chat line with anonymous people who you are not face to face with, or you have a few drinks at the office Christmas Party....or after work....and then maybe a few more drinks...and you start to put your 'ego defenders'...your 'armed guards of the Id Asylum'...out of commission...They start to get silly, sloppy, careless...stupid...konk out around the asylum door....
And the id inmates start to have a party....A Dionysian Party....One by one...or maybe only one real bad one...escapes out the Asylum Door...The ego defenders are all 'passed out' around the Asylum door.....
Straight up to The Dionysian Ego go the 'badder id inmates'....reinforcing The Dionysian Ego...making him or her bolder....without a sense of Apollonian Ego accountability....
The Dionysian Ego 'floods The Central Ego'....and 'grabs the steering wheel from Management'....
In a New York Moment....our Dionysian Ego takes over our Ship....and makes an 'Executive Decision'.....coming straight from 'Idsville'....and 'The Loins of The Personality'....
What happens next is anyone's guess...
But when all the ego defensders that were supposed to be on guard over The Id Asylum, when the Central Ego which is supposed to make all of the 'Executive Decisons', and when the Apollonian Superego which is supposed to 'oversee' and 'criticize' The Central Ego when it starts to 'slip in its socially accountable duties'....when all of these wake up the next morning...after the office party....or after 'the after work party'...
Recalling what you said or did in a New York Moment....
How comfortable are you going to feel going back to work in the morning?
How badly did you let your guard slip?
Are you on the front page of all the National Newspapers?
'Wife Takes Golf Swing At Husband's Windshield!!
'Politician Says He's Mountain Climbing in The Appalacians; Found In Lover's Arms in Rio de Janeiro!'
Sometimes its embarrassing...humiliating....painful....to be human....
Ya gotta move on......
-- dgb, Aug. 28th, 2011,
-- David Gordon Bain
